Please tell me if you’d let your girlfriend live, even if it means that one of her best friends would die because of her (since this best friend was running away with her to protect her in the first place), and with her selfless nature she’d blame herself for the rest of her life. Please tell me if you would rather get her out of that car, even knowing that you’d me disrespecting her own choice? That was not suicidal!Elena, or stupid!Elena. She didn’t want to die; she just wanted to make a sacrifice, if it meant that one of her closest friends would live. She knew she couldn’t live with herself if she was saved when Matt was dying. So many people suffered because Elena had been saved by the Salvatores, and she wasn’t even knowing that she was being rescued half of those times. This time she wanted to make a difference. She wanted to make something that would safe someone’s life rather than hers.
She couldn’t live without that. She would hate herself and she would hate Stefan. So even though she knew the risk of death was huge, she told Stefan to get Matt out of that first. And Stefan was being Stefan. He always respected her choices and he knew this one was important, so he took Matt first, even though he knew he may not bring her back alive later. He knows Elena. He knew that she needed that for herself, more than she needed to be alive for him or for Damon.
And here he is. Respecting Elena’s decision once again. Once again seeing that this may be the last moment they spend together. He could’ve fed her his blood. But he didn’t because he knew she’d rather be dead.
You remember when Caroline’s dad was dying and Elena told Caroline that all her dad had were his believes? Now look at what Stefan did. I don’t think that many of us can imagine loving someone so much that you’ll forget for a second how you feel and how you want to save them and you’ll just respect that person’s last wish. That no matter how hard it is, you will let them die with their dignity, as humans, with their believes. Sure, many will say that Stefan should’ve saved Elena if he truly loved her, but how would she forgive him for letting Matt die?
I’ve realized one thing - all we want is to be loved and respected in life. Stefan kissed Elena, showing her how much he loved her. And then he respected her by making her last wish come true. Because he knows how much her friends mean to Elena and he knows how Elena will never forgive herself if she lived and Matt died. So Stefan just couldn’t disappoint her. Even if it meant losing her, sacrificing what they have. But as Klaus said ‘That kind of love never dies’ and Stefan knew it. He knew that no mater what happens their love will always be alive.
My mum used to tell me that love’s greatest measure is sacrifice and I always wondered why. Well, today I know why.
